You know that time… at the end of the day, when you are totally tapped out with your kids. Or, perhaps, when you are coming home from work a bit drained, and feeling entirely unprepared to step into “Mom?” with little people full of sparkles and light and energy, when that’s hardly what you are full of? Yeah, me too.
It’s always hard resetting our energy, our body language, our mindset and attitude. Collectively we can call these our “disposition.” You can see dispositions in your partner too. When they come home from work, are they still in work mode? Do they step right into family mode? or somewhere in between? The shift is hard, and it takes a lot of awareness. At work I am paid to come up with ideas, be creative and be deep in thought and research whilst sitting still (mind body and emotional states are different).
At home, I am most effective as a fully present, playful, yet grounded mother.
I’m a scientific person and I like evidence, so when I heard about breathing exercises, I liked the scientific evidence that it downregulates our nervous system and rushing mind, but it didn’t quite land. What I need is to connect the dots in my own life. I need to practice something myself and see for myself the benefits.
Years ago, I discovered a very quick and easy technique that I do literally every time I step into different roles or environments. I’m a visual person so I like rich visuals – so once again I have engaged with my terrible water colour painting skills to help “paint” a visual of this exercise.
I originally learnt this exercise from a Navy SEAL Commander, Mark Divine and to make it connect for me, I adapted the application and visual how my brain works.
You may think at first that that world is very different from the maternity leave world, but it is not at all. For example, we are all humans, we are all working with 60,000 thoughts a day, how to not engage with all of them and stay focused on the clear priorities, values and results we want. Some of the most useful things I have acquired from people like Mark, are super relevant in my own life. I absolutely loved his book The Way of the Seal and most of the practices from that book, I have adapted to my own Commander Mom life, haha.
So, I present to you, a very quick adaptation of Commander Divine’s Box Breathing Method that is very, very useful and relevant to our life as mothers.